Mon 29 Nov 2010
Posted by polerin under Social issues, Trans *
Inspired by the TERF’s posting and commenting at The Magazine Project.
Then cry foul when we dare argue back against your cissplaining.
Sorry, it doesn’t work like that.
I’m not oppressing you, I’ve got no power to do so. As much as it may hurt you to hear this, what you are doing is classic oppression. You are ganging up with the forces of social conservatism to deny us medical care, to attempt to legislate us out of existence, and to attempt to shame and frighten us back into the closet.
You load us up with all these false circular arguments, you shift goalposts, you consistently work to waste our time and energy, our love, and our caring.
We reach out time after time to show you we are not the monsters you assume, we try to respond to your concerns, only to find time and again you ignore what we have to say and just respond with the same script.
You say that my existence reinforces the gender binary, is anti-feminist, and that I’m just a pervert who’s wearing a woman suit.
You say that my life helps kill women by reinforcing a culture of a oppression against them, and yet you fail to see how your words and actions kill trans women by helping to support a culture that oppresses trans people.
You assert that you really trying to make life better for everyone, that you really care, and yet the words you use are full of hate and fear.
So you know what? It’s your turn.
Prove to me that I’m wrong. Prove to me that I’m hurting feminism, lesbian culture, or women in general by my continued existence on this planet. Because I say it’s YOU who is doing that. I’ve done my proving, thread after thread, interaction after interaction, and simply by living my life.
Your unreasoned flailing and logical fallacies.
Your telling my wife that she’s a waste of a perfectly good lesbian.
Your telling me that my happiness and rights mean nothing.
Your willingness to put aside your own theory in order to better hate me.
Let them know what it’s Their Turn to answer for here. I’m tired of constantly on the defensive. I’m tired of explaining to people who have no intention of hearing.
I’m pretty sure you are too.
Done. Here’s my post telling them.
TransGriot: RadFems-Still Letting The Transhate Flow
By the way, I’d love to talk with you. Hit me up on AIM sometime, same name. Or tag my email with a messenger that’s better for you, if you can see it.
If you’re interested, I took the liberty of wgetting The Magazine Project before and after they deleted about 150 comments:
All the best,
I met Bev Jo in Berkeley waaaay back in the day (God, I’m old), when I worked for Plexus newspaper. We knew a lot of the same people.
What gets me is: she is very butch. Does she think straight people automatically assume she is NOT trans? Because I have to disagree that they would automatically assume this about her. Ironically, she is exactly the type of woman that the haters would accuse of “being a man” and throw out of the restroom.
Trans rights are about WOMEN LIKE HER not getting beat up too!!!!!! It’s just so sad and fucked up that she does not see that. :(
Just now got thru that nasty thread (ugh), and I thought you did a great job and stayed calm. My love and best winter holiday wishes to you, Polerin/Eclexia!
This is off topic to the post but I don’t know how else to contact you. I just wanted to introduce myself. Any friend of Aunt B’s, and all that.
Some times I forget just how good i have it up here. My area is very progressive and just about all of us are activists of one flavor or another.
for some reason they aint all clamouring to spew their anti trans bile
suprise suprise, btw hit me up on msn or my place too.
hi!,I really like your writing very so much! proportion we keep in touch extra approximately your article
on AOL? I need a specialist on this area to unravel my problem.
Maybe that is you! Taking a look forward to see you.
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